As you know, one of my major visions for this blog is that it will be a place where women can find acceptance and motivation. With that goal in mind, I contemplated what I should write for this post, and almost immediately, one phrase began tumbling around in my mind. “Why not you, why not today?” … “Why not you, why not today?”
As I contemplated what this could mean, I came to a realization. Many of us start out bright eyed and bushy tailed, believing that we can do and be anything, live and go anywhere, and ultimately be happy and free to shine. Then life happens, and somewhere along the way, whether through a harsh word, a bad relationship, a perceived failure, or even a lack of progress we begin to doubt ourselves. With that doubt comes a lack of self-confidence, and bit by bit we stop believing that anything is possible for us.
It is at that point that we often settle for what we think we can get or what we think we deserve. Whether it’s in reference to a career, friendship/relationship, or lifestyle, instead of venturing out or moving forward, our reaction is to find a comfortable little nook and hunker down in our perceived safe place. Initially it may be that we are just taking a little time to gather our courage or figure things out before moving forward, but before we know it, a week has slipped by, then a month, next a year, and the next thing we know, an irreplaceable amount of time has slipped away from us and we’ve completely forgotten how to move forward. Not only are we not as happy as we thought we would be at this point in our lives, but we are unfulfilled and constantly questioning if this is it, or whether there is possibly something more.
So, what do we do? We often think about it, we may talk about it, we worry about it, but strangely we fail to do anything about it. Instead we procrastinate and avoid the issue all together. We turn to reality t.v. and quite often social media. That’s right, rather than face our own issues, we have learned that with the click of a remote, or the swipe of a finger we can easily abandon messy homes, tedious jobs, and overwhelming responsibilities to become fully immersed in someone else’s story.
We watch the t.v. in wonder as people (just like us) do amazing (and sometimes not-so-amazing) things. Alternatively, or perhaps simultaneously, we peruse our timelines, and acknowledge their accomplishments, celebrate their successes, and virtually attend their graduations, weddings, date nights, family vacations, and the list goes on. And then… we go back to our ordinary lives, complete with laundry, dirty dishes, piles of paperwork, moody children, and an endless list of to-dos, all the while wondering how we got here.
So here we are… stagnant. Perhaps you have lost hope and you have begun to accept the belief that this is as good as it gets. Even if that is the case, I would propose that if you are reading this blog you have not actually lost hope. Somewhere deep inside there is still a glimmer of that girl who thought anything was possible, and deep inside you still have a burning hope to be happy and shine bright.
So… Why not you, why not today? Whether you want to or not, whether you believe it or not, you and you alone hold the key to your own happiness. You have the ability to be great, and you have all the tools that you need to be amazing, but, and it’s a big BUT, you have to choose to be happy. You have to decide that you can and will pursue your own happiness. No one else can do it for you.
To help you along the way, I will let you in on a little secret. Reality t.v. stars and your friends and acquaintances on social media are no more special than you are. The only difference between you and them, is that they see what they want and they have the courage and willingness to pursue it. They understand that setbacks and disappointments are just that, setbacks and disappointments. The only thing that truly separates the doers from the observers is that doers do.
So, I’ll pose the question again. Why not you, why not today? Start small if you need to, but whatever you do, make sure that you DO it TODAY. As a matter of fact, right now I urge you to take about 10-15 minutes to figure out what small step you can take to move toward your ultimate goal and your individual pursuit of happiness. Then mark your calendar, and let today be the first day of the rest of your life.
DO IT TODAY!